I get it, after all the years of being on the outside looking in and wondering what was the big deal when I would hear mothers complain of their busy schedules and tasks to complete, I get it! I’m always on the move, always going. My feet always hurt, my back aches and I’m dizzied with the day to day. As a first time mom to an almost 1yr old, I’m happy about how I’ve navigated through those new mom moments (with the help of friends) and I’m even happier that through that navigation I’ve learned the ultimate mom secret. “Balance” I would be even happier though, if I learned how to get some!
As a working mom my life is crazy! There was a schedule at one time, but it just kind of disappeared. There are some remnants of a set schedule, but really, my son dictates the schedule. When he wakes I wake and we go from there. I work retail so my hours are usually late and sporadic.You get to the point that you feel like you’re doing everything and you’ve done almost nothing! Texts and calls go unreturned for hours, sometimes days, plans to hang out usually never get solidified, the to do list you make for yourself of the same 5 things you “need” to do when you get home is a joke by the time you actually get home. I end up spending some time with the baby before he goes to sleep, showering, eating some sort of dinner and then its midnight and I can barely keep my eyes open. I neglect the hubby, I neglect my home most of the times, and I neglect myself. I feel like I’m not able to give 100% to any one thing because I am always looking ahead at all the other things that need to be done after that.
I know the solution. I know that once I find the right balance things get a bit more sane. But the issue is I have no idea how to get it! Routine and balance are quite different and right now I have a routine that includes zero balance! So vet moms I turn to you, how do you do it? What are the ways you balance your work and family life in order to remain a normal functioning person and not a mostly sleep deprived robot that only has one button that says, “GO”?
A version of this post was originally made on mommy site: Live Mommihood